Is Your Ego Getting the Best of You?

Is Your Ego Getting the Best of You?

I think about ego as the idealized or overinflated story each of us tells about who we are – a story that is like a shield. It provides protection, but also blocks our view and it is very difficult to put down. Do you have an ego story? It might be the story about how...
Dancing With Surprises

Dancing With Surprises

Several years back I had the opportunity to work with a co-op founded by a group of artists who had all formerly experienced homelessness. I was invited to facilitate a strategic planning meeting involving the entire co-op membership. We met in their rented warehouse...
Four Ways to Calm Your Worries about the Future

Four Ways to Calm Your Worries about the Future

The future has never felt more uncertain. How much time do you waste on excessive and unproductive worrying? I define “unproductive worry” as the downward spiral in which we take stock of the unknowns and convert them into worse case scenarios. We then fixate on those...
Four Ways to Relate to Past Disappointments

Four Ways to Relate to Past Disappointments

When I revisit the past I often feel disappointed – in myself and in others. I fixate on ways I didn’t measure up to expectations or how I felt let down by those I trusted. The past, or more precisely stated – our relationship with the past – can provide a mountain of...
ON MY MIND: The Cynics Among Us

ON MY MIND: The Cynics Among Us

I work a lot with teams that are trying to make something better – their organizations, their communities, their countries. Inevitably, early in any change process, there’s often a person at the back of the room who raises his or her hand and asks a question that’s...