ON MY MIND: Demanding vs. Demeaning

ON MY MIND: Demanding vs. Demeaning

Over the past month I’ve been in very similar conversations with three different clients. They’ve gone something like this: Client: I think some of my people think I’m a real a$$hole. Me: Why might they feel that way? Client: Because before I arrived nobody demanded...
ON MY MIND: Saying a Skillful “No”

ON MY MIND: Saying a Skillful “No”

What makes saying “no” so difficult? First, we all have these archetypal saboteurs that run like tape recordings in our heads. Some of the saboteurs that make saying “no” most difficult include: The pleaser who believes “people won’t like or value me if I don’t meet...
ON MY MIND: What Do You Stand For?

ON MY MIND: What Do You Stand For?

“Core values are the timeless ideals that require no external justification.” -Jim Collins For leaders and organizations, core values define what it means to operate with integrity. In my book, Standing in the Fire, I define “knowing what you stand for” as having...