ON MY MIND: Leading is Convening

ON MY MIND: Leading is Convening

“I-don’t-know.” These are three words that most leaders rarely, if ever, dare utter. Why does the admission of “not knowing” feel so uncomfortable? As a client once shared with me, “A failure to know the answer or offer the solution feels like a failure of my...
ON MY MIND: Masks, Light, and Leadership

ON MY MIND: Masks, Light, and Leadership

I recently facilitated a workshop at the Encuentro Internacional de Equipos de Trabajo —an amazing international conference on best practices and innovations in workplace collaboration. My workshop was called: Taking Off Our Masks to Unleash the Power of Authenticity...
ON MY MIND: Demanding vs. Demeaning

ON MY MIND: Demanding vs. Demeaning

Over the past month I’ve been in very similar conversations with three different clients. They’ve gone something like this: Client: I think some of my people think I’m a real a$$hole. Me: Why might they feel that way? Client: Because before I arrived nobody demanded...
ON MY MIND: Saying a Skillful “No”

ON MY MIND: Saying a Skillful “No”

What makes saying “no” so difficult? First, we all have these archetypal saboteurs that run like tape recordings in our heads. Some of the saboteurs that make saying “no” most difficult include: The pleaser who believes “people won’t like or value me if I don’t meet...