Four Ways to Calm Your Worries about the Future

Four Ways to Calm Your Worries about the Future

The future has never felt more uncertain. How much time do you waste on excessive and unproductive worrying? I define “unproductive worry” as the downward spiral in which we take stock of the unknowns and convert them into worse case scenarios. We then fixate on those...
Four Ways to Relate to Past Disappointments

Four Ways to Relate to Past Disappointments

When I revisit the past I often feel disappointed – in myself and in others. I fixate on ways I didn’t measure up to expectations or how I felt let down by those I trusted. The past, or more precisely stated – our relationship with the past – can provide a mountain of...
ON MY MIND: The Cynics Among Us

ON MY MIND: The Cynics Among Us

I work a lot with teams that are trying to make something better – their organizations, their communities, their countries. Inevitably, early in any change process, there’s often a person at the back of the room who raises his or her hand and asks a question that’s...
ON MY MIND: The Wisdom of Chickens

ON MY MIND: The Wisdom of Chickens

Chickens? Wisdom? Give me a chance to explain. When I’m working with leaders I often find myself coming back to three words of advice inspired by author Greg McKeowen – “protect the asset.” He wrote: The best asset we have for making a contribution to the world is...
FROM MY BOOKSHELF: Think Again by Adam Grant

FROM MY BOOKSHELF: Think Again by Adam Grant

The old saying, “seeing is believing” doesn’t really describe how we operate as humans. If you’ve spent any time with me in a workshop, you’ve probably heard me tell a favorite story that challenges this conventional wisdom. There’s this elderly couple. The wife Ethel...
ON MY MIND: Becoming an Adult

ON MY MIND: Becoming an Adult

In a blog about “post-traumatic growth,” I explored how our most painful life events can positively shape us as people and leaders. Healing from trauma requires that we see ourselves as capable of growing – even transforming — during the course of our adult...
ON MY MIND: Post-Traumatic Growth

ON MY MIND: Post-Traumatic Growth

“In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning.” —Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning I’ve always been interested in self-repair – the ways in which we put ourselves back together after things fall apart. Over the last...